Data Shows 50 of the Sexiest Songs for Your Intimate Playlist
As a society, we’ve been playlisting for nearly half a century now, and since people have made playlists, people have made sex playlists. Some are carefully curated for late-night intimacy, others thrown together for make-out sessions or bedroom background music. While these playlists are deeply personal and individual, looked at together, they offer a rare glimpse into how people associate music with intimacy.
We wanted to answer a simple question: which songs appear most frequently in users’ Spotify playlists made for bumping and grinding?
And yes, we know what you’re thinking. Of course, he makes the list. Over. And over. And over.
How the Research Was Conducted
Analysis by adult chat platform Flirtbate examined 45 publicly available, user-curated Spotify playlists explicitly titled around sex and intimacy. Platform-owned or branded editorial playlists were excluded to focus solely on real user selections.
Each playlist’s tracklist was collected and cleaned to remove duplicates. Songs were then ranked by repeat inclusion – that is, how many unique playlists each track appeared in. No weighting was applied for saves, follower counts, or playlist popularity.
The aim was not to measure how often songs are played, but how often people independently select the same tracks when curating music for intimate settings.
It’s important to note the scope of the findings; this analysis reflects playlist curation intent, not confirmed real-world behaviour. It shows cultural associations with intimacy, not a definitive guide to anyone’s sex life.
The 50 Sexiest Songs
We’re calling these the ‘sexiest’ songs. Not because they’re objectively the best, but because they’re the ones people keep choosing when they’re setting the mood.
50 Marvin Gaye – Let’s get it on (Featured 8 times)
49 Tory Lanez & RL Grime – In for it (Featured 8 times)
48 Boyz II Men – I’ll make love to you (Featured 8 times)
47 Everybody Loves an Outlaw – I see red (Featured 8 times)
46 Daniel Caesar & Kali Uchis – Get you (Featured 8 times)
45 Bryson Tiller – Exchange (Featured 8 times)
44 Daniel Di Angelo – Drive you insane (Featured 8 times)
43 Ginuwine – Differences (Featured 8 times)
42 112 – Cupid (Featured 8 times)
41 Justine Skye & Tyga – Collide (Featured 8 times)
40 Ari Abdul – Babydoll (Featured 8 times)
39 Jacquees – B.E.D. (Featured 8 times)
38 Jeremih, Lil Wayne & Natasha Mosley – All the time (Featured 8 times)
37 Isabel LaRosa – I’m yours (Featured 9 times)
36 Keith Sweat -Twisted (Featured 9 times)
35 Rihanna – Skin (Featured 9 times)
34 Nicholas Bonnin & Angelicca – Shut up and listen (Featured 9 times)
33 Aaryan Shah – Renegade (Featured 9 times)
32 Ginuwine -Pony (Featured 9 times)
31 Ariana Grande & Lil Wayne – Let me love you (Featured 9 times)
30 Montell Fish -Hotel (Featured 9 times)
29 The Weeknd – Earned it (Featured 9 times)
28 PLAZA – All mine (Featured 9 times)
27 The Weeknd – Acquainted (Featured 9 times)
26 Zandros & Limi – Obsessed (Featured 10 times)
25 Ex Habit – Who do you want (Featured 10 times)
24 Doja Cat – Streets (Featured 10 times)
23 Tory Lanez – Say it (Featured 10 times)
22 Ty Dolla $ign – Or nah (remix ft. The Weeknd, Wiz Khalifa & DJ Mustard) (Featured 10 times)
21 The Weeknd & Gesaffelstein – I was never there (Featured 10 times)
20 Two Feet – I feel like I’m drowning (Featured 10 times)
19 Chris Brown – Under the influence (Featured 11 times)
18 Chase Atlantic – Slow down (Featured 11 times)
17 The Weeknd (ft. JENNIE & Lily-Rose Depp) – One of the girls (Featured 11 times)
16 Chase Atlantic – Into it (Featured 11 times)
15 The Weeknd – High for this (Featured 11 times)
14 The Weeknd – Earned it (Featured 11 times)
13 Jeremih – Birthday sex (Featured 11 times)
12 Montell Fish – Bathroom (Featured 11 times)
11 Rihanna – Needed me (Featured 12 times)
The Most Repeated Songs
When ranked by repeat inclusion across playlists, certain tracks clearly function as staples. Songs like Often and Wicked Games by The Weeknd, Don’t by Bryson Tiller, Needed Me by Rihanna, and Do I Wanna Know? by Arctic Monkeys appeared across a significant portion of playlists.
Notably, there aren’t any high-energy club tracks or upbeat pop anthems. Most are slow-burning or even moody songs with restrained production and more tension than release. Several are over a decade old, suggesting that intimacy playlists are driven less by current charts and more by enduring mood.
The Top 10
Once you reach the top of the list, there really is no debate.
10 Arctic Monkeys – I wanna be yours (Featured 12 times)
9 The Weeknd – Wicked games (Featured 13 times)
8 The Weeknd – The hills (Featured 13 times)
7 Chase Atlantic – Swim (Featured 13 times)
6 Two Feet – Love is a bitch (Featured 13 times)
5 Bryson Tiller – Don’t (Featured 13 times)
4 Arctic Monkeys – Do I wanna know? (Featured 13 times)
3 The Weeknd – Die for you (Featured 13 times)
2 The Weeknd – Call out my name (Featured 14 times)
1 The Weeknd – Often (Featured 18 times)
A Seductive King Has Been Crowned
One artist stood head and shoulders above all others. The Weeknd appeared in two-thirds of all playlists analysed, and even scored half of the overall top 10! His sound has become synonymous with late-night encounters and candle-lit hotel rooms.
Beyond that, a small group of R&B and pop-leaning artists appeared again and again, including Rihanna, Bryson Tiller, Miguel, Chris Brown, and Drake. A handful of alternative acts also featured prominently, particularly Arctic Monkeys, whose slower, moodier tracks crossed over into bedroom playlists.
Despite Spotify’s endless push toward new releases and discovery, sex playlists remain stubbornly nostalgic. Rather than chasing the next big release, real people seem to lean on familiar sounds that help set the mood without demanding attention. In the bedroom, reliability, consistency and familiarity still win.
